Something has been on my heart for a little while now and I thought I would share in hopes of being a blessing to a reader who may come across this post.
Valentine's Day is just around the corner and at this time of year I cannot help but think of single ladies, because I was in your shoes not that long ago and I don't ever want to forget that season and all God taught me through it.
This past year, while attending a wedding, a minister was giving the challenge and he said something that made me stop and think. He said that young ladies who seem to be given that "extra time" at home should treasure that season in their life, for they would never get it back. That being single is a blessing from the Lord and should be used to further our walk with Him.
I listened to him and recalled to mind the years that I was single and watching friends and classmates get married and move on. I remembered with mixed emotions and then it hit me. In a strange way, I missed those days. Now, please don't take me wrong. Anyone who knows me, knows I adore my husband and love the life God has given us together. But, there was something I "missed" about that season and I couldn't put my finger on it.
Somehow this thought has stayed with me throughout the year and just recently I realized what it was that I missed from my single years. In the years leading up to God bringing Jack into my life, I had to REALLY learn to trust in God and Him ALONE. I claimed scripture after scripture and saw God answer so many prayers - some so little that only I could appreciate them. My faith was strengthened and I learned to be content with the season of life God had me in.
You see, being single is not a bad thing:
- I had an extra 4 years at home
- I was able to help and assist friends and their weddings
- I developed hobbies
- I served in my home church
- I got more time in the kitchen
- God increased my faith
- I saw prayers answered
So, with Valentines under two weeks away, I want to challenge any young lady who thinks being single is a troublesome trial to keep your head up. Trust God in this season of your life, He can do so much through you as you learn to lean on Him more and more daily.
Marriage is worth the wait and I can honestly say I look back with fondness on my "single season."
Happy Valentines, my single friends - you are in my prayers.
Well said my daughter. I hope this post will be a blessing to many young "Ladies in waiting" this Valentine season.
ReplyDeletethank you for the encouragement. "extra time" - a nice way to look at it.
ReplyDeletea sister in Christ, Amy F.
Thanks for writing this. Its a great way to look at it. I can't say I am "dying" because Im not married or dating at the time, but what you said about never getting this time back with family was very helpful. Thank you for writing what was on your heart.
ReplyDeleteAmen, Amen, Amen!!
ReplyDeleteGod waited till I was 29 to send my Mr. Right along, so I know exactly how you felt! I had 10+ extra years at home ;) I wouldn't trade it for the world, and God's Will is so worth the wait! God has since blessed my Preacher hubby and I with 2 beautiful babies :) I stand amazed every day how He has blessed us!
Thank you for posting this!
Naomi B.
Thank you for sharing this. I needed this reminder! Also, I needed the encouragement! Thanks so much! :)
ReplyDeleteAwww...very encouraging heartfelt advice:)
ReplyDeleteThis is a beautiful, spot on post. This is my first Valentines Day as a married woman and while I was driving in the car today I was reflecting on this same thing - how hard so many Valentines Days were. There were many years where I was overcome with bitterness and questioned why God seemed to be taking so long to work in my life while my friends around me were getting married and starting families. I also reached a similar point where I finally learned to lean fully on God and lay my single status in his hands. It was then that I started to really recognize the blessings and opportunities I had as a single woman living at home. And it was only when I started letting go of my frustration and desire for control that God brought my husband into my life....and he was def worth the wait :)
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